The belief in a “soulmate” might be the most damaging belief women and yes, even men, have been fed. That you are “owed” a soulmate, that this has been promised to you since birth. Or, well, at least since your first Disney movie.

Yesterday, as I write this, was Halloween. The number one costume for little girls consistently year after year is a princess. The number one for boys is a superhero. It starts early this thinking that some superhero will come and rescue the princess – make her feel beautiful and valued or conversely, that the superhero will find his princess, rescue her from the tower and make him feel manly, strong and necessary. I blame Disney. For a lot. But mostly for our screwed up “happily ever after” thinking. As Ronny Cammareri says in Moonstruck, “The storybooks are bullshit.”
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